Be the mediator

Don’t get involved in the heated part of discussions. Keep calm, and try to keep your husband calm. There will be times when your husband is being unreasonable. There will be times when his ex is being unreasonable. There will be times when they are both being unreasonable. Think of ways for them to compromise. Offer your thoughts as an outside party. Always put the kids first. Most times during an argument it’s hard to maintain composure and to be reasonable. Keep quiet during the argument and then calmly state your concerns or ideas to best suit the children. You have a better chance of being heard if you are not involved in the argument.