Introduction
Introduction
So you’re married. You have great bond with your Husband, your kids love him, his kids love you, and maybe they even call you mom. Who could ask for more? Your life is perfect, right? Wrong. Chances are if there are kids involved from previous relationships, drama will ensue, usually sooner than later. Here is my advice on how to deal with your spouse’s ex and the parent of your step kids.
Not every relationship is coated in pretty roses and ribbons, in fact some have an air of something quite vile. Depending on the breakup between your spouse and their ex, you might still be able to sense the stench when they talk about or to each other. The first thing you need to understand is that most people go through certain stages during a divorce. The divorce could have been caused by a mutual desire to part ways or something more traumatic like a cheating spouse. Either way, divorce is a huge life change for everyone involved. The stages both parties will experience during this time closely resemble the stages of losing a loved one to death. These stages are denial, anger, bargaining, depression and acceptance. The first 4 stages aren’t always in the same order. Some stages can be skipped, others repeated. Each situation follows its own set of unwritten rules, but almost always ends with everyone accepting the situation and the things they cannot change.